Started a rad/rad defender blueside a long time ago (before Faultline revamp but after the radio introduction. Was right after I discovered that applying a City of Heroes trial code to a paying City of Villain account gave full version of City of Heroes, indefinitely)
Teaming with a blaster and a scrapper needing support in the Hollows, I get to the mission (not unscathed, hollows-newb I was, but in good enough condition after healing) and find the scrapper repeatedly attacking my debuffs anchors. To which I proceed to explain he should target something else because it's debuffing the others. To which the blaster replies that I shouldn't talk like that to the scrapper (I forgot his name), because he has a lvl 50, and the scrapper trashtalks me.
Also complained that he couldn't see my debuffs, so I quit, saying that being 50 apparently doesn't provide good eyesight nor manners.
yeah on the manners part.
But with the visual part, depends on the settings of their computers. Some settings actually caused the effects of buffs and stuff sometimes fiddling with the particle count caused that stuff to not be visible.
Realized that when I got a new computer and did a reinstall and everything went to wacky setting where buffs and auras was not visible. First I thought it was a bug, then remembered I did reset all my options and setting from the last machine and after a little tweaking, raising the bar from performance to high graphic setting solved that.
Then with invention of colored powers some buffs especially anchors in a crowd can be hard to see and tell which is anchor and which is merely debuffed, on my old computer with medium settings (and that computer was no slouch.). So it might not been such of a case of eyesight and could be he was telling the truth and couldnt see the buffs. But still, I noticed it's pretty common for alort of COX players to get snippy over the smallest things in game.
Like this one guy, I didnt care for speed boost but at the same time generally didnt mind it if it came my way but my friend despised speed boost especially. It wasnt that her computer didnt handle it or what not or hated kins, it was just that speed boost was just one of those powers that she didnt like. To her the end gain, which since she mostly played solo and solved her own end problems wasnt worth the unwanted speed boost the buff provided. So any ways it was me, my friend and two others and this kin we picked up abotu to run some good old missions, random missions arc missions papers we didnt care what ever came up. So like most kins trying to be helpful, he started to speed boost everyone, of course without asking and depending on view that could be bad ettiquette in itself but hey, it's only a buff in my eyes no big deal. But my friend pipes up in as friendly manner as possible, which is sometimes unusual for her as she is usually direct which can come off as plain brash in text form, "Hi. I understand your willingness to buff but I do not care for Speed Boost and would like to kindly ask you from speed boosting me. Now I have a kin myself and I know sometimes it's slips, but I prefer to not have that boost." Ok, so immediately the Kin speed boosts her again. She sends tell to me "I guess that guy didnt understand me the first time." So we get to the mission and she again pipes up. "Alright, again, I guess the first time somethign was missed or forgotten. It's ok, but remember I do not want speed boost." So again without saying a word the Kin as if on que speed boost her again. Again she send s tell to me "Ok I think this guy is trying to be an ass. I'm about done being nice." So before it gets turned into a big thing I figured, let me have a go at it. So in private text I send the kin a message first just asking about general stuff, like how does he like the kin build and stuff and how long he been playing and how the kin is a great assett to any team then I laid it on him "Look, I know you're trying to contribute but not everyone like the speed boost buff. I know you probably dont mean anythign bt it but to prevent uneeded conflict just simply skip *her*." He replies back. "She will take the buff whether she likes it or not. If she dont like it, tough." And again hits her with another speed boost. Well, my first instinct was to say ok and let the result I knew was coming take it's course, but I calmly said again, "hey now, as I said, to prevent issues, just skip her. I have no idea why she dont like speed boost I dont care why she dont like speed boost but for what ever reason she dont. And just like anyone here, and as I assume you dont like people telling you how to play your toon, dont force something on someone else. But I hate to remind you it was you that ask us to join this team. Although I dont have the star, and guess you missed it but the person that is requesting to not to be speed boosted is team leader. I'm sure you probably wouldnt mind being kicked but hey, again to avoid conflict, knock it off or just do yourself a favor and leave."
No more replies but he stayed. So he speed boost my friend once more and while she was moving, and thus ended up aggroing the nearest group and two more. I think maybe half on purpose and half on accident but either way she started to beeline towards the kin, the rest of the team killing as many as they can, and of course her beign a tank the damage is miniscule, of course the kin seeing this tank with about three mobs worth of group coming at him bolts. So my friend stops, gather up all mob she can in a corner and tp friend this poor chap into the middle of the mob tp herself out and before he realized what just happened he was face planted. Eventually after the dust cleared and everyone is standing around except the kin, he eventually ask for an awake. The other two team mates said they was fresh out and rest of team continue on. I had an awake but hesitated, as on one hand it did serve him right but on the other hand...I gave him the awake. He eventually catches up to the group and again speed boosts her. He is then kicked from the team and knowing her, she probably placed him ignore. Guess the poor chap needed to vent so he start sending tells to me ranting how my friend that he kepted speed boosting against her wishes was b****, and how she sucked, immature, and etc like he opened a book of insults and just threw them all in there. I think I gave in to the urge of snark with my next reply. "I find it ironic you are angry that someone just basically chose whether or not you will be part of this team against your wishes but had no qualms about enforcing your powers on them against their wishes. Not to be mean or anythign but maybe now you know their frustration. I think in this situation every should be happy. She dont have to worry about speed boost and you can speed boost people to heart content but unfortunatley not as part of this team by the decision of the the team leader."
TLDR- In short some people were plain pushy and rude with their powers and buff. I played buffers and it wasnt hard at all to skip a person who wished to not be speed boosted or whatever. How every "Stupid" their reason is, it's their character their choice and I dont think anyone else had any right to force a power especially one such as speed boost upon them. One of the things I noticed that was rampant in COH, people getting jollies on speed boosting people from the looks over it, becasue they simply enjoyed haveing power over how someone else character moved and the ability to do it and not much the player can do about it. Luckily null the gull came along and I noticed there were a lot less kins running around. I guess it was no fun in griefing people when they can simply cancel it. Those people gave kins a very bad name.