is there a private CoH sever out there at all?

[stiffishobject]

that's mybig question

[Fridgy Daiere]

If there were, they likely would not be posted here.  The official answer is "no."

[downix]

Only one out there is SEGS, which is Issue 1 targeted.

segs.nemerle.eu

[Nyx Nought Nothing]

that's mybig question

The only one i've heard a peep about is SEGS, so if your question included "worth playing" i'd say definitely not.