Hi there. Do we happen to have any other LGBT(etc) hanging around here? I mean, other than me. By LGBT community standards, I'm not a very good gay, so they might be more in touch with this subject than I.
But... I've never felt very welcome in Cities as a gay guy. From what I can tell, it comes mostly from Cities' high population of older people. I've been in so many arguments about it that I just keep quiet if it ever comes up. This probably sounds way pessimistic, so I'd love for people to prove me wrong.
Me too, I guess, but I have no contacts within any LGBT+ communities.
I've never had any problems with it in game, but I also seem to have a friends list that is much higher in LGBT+ peoples than is statistically probable if I picked friends at absolute random, so maybe I'm just biased by who I surround myself with in the game.
There's good gay and bad gay?
I wonder if there are good heteros and bad heteros. And which one am I? *sigh* I'm probably a horrible hetero since I can cook, clean, and operating a sewing machine quite competently.
I'm bad at being what I am then, because I'm not good at cleaning and I can't sew anything. Maybe you karmatically balance me out or something!
I don't think I've ever seen any LGBT hate playing the game, but I'm probably not as quick to pick up on it if it's in front of me. I'm certainly not passing judgment, and most of the people I've played the game with regularly over the years certainly weren't.
I do remember somebody sort of very slightly trans-bashing over /hc a while back. It was.. I don't want to say it was purposefully bashing. It started out as a "Lol, women don't play video games" thing and went from here.
Zwill, for what it's worth, was somewhat protective and thoughtful of transgendered people. That really made me feel a lot more welcome.
I'm gonna miss him, as a community manager.
Actually, this one kind of pisses me off, not to go all moderaty on anyone. I'm fairly competent in those areas, as well, not to mention knowing how to knit, and I've never felt like those were "girly" or "gay" things to do. I just have a widely diverse skillset, which also includes carpentry, computers, and basic automotive maintenance. It's not a predilection toward more or less masculine behaviors, so much as it's frugality. Why replace what I can fix?
I'm sure he was being facetious.
Back in 2008 (I think; might have been 2007) DJ_Blu on Victory sponsored their Q Pride Parade. I was in touch because I wanted to support the event by giving them infamy (I had what was, at the time, quite a bit lying around from marketeering experiments). I got the impression that Victory was the go-to server for the LGBT crowd, but I could easily be wrong, and it was years ago now.
I'm hetero, but my mom is a lesbian, so I really liked the community support the game showed.
I think Victory was the 'unofficial' LGTB+ server, in the same way that Virtue was the 'unofficial' RP server.
Though I could be wrong. Despite my orientation, I rolled all my characters on Virtue after migrating from Infinity.
Please don't make light of this. I really don't appreciate the use of stereotypes. No matter what ideological high ground you're coming from, being homo- or bisexual is different than being hetero. I'm a boy who likes boys, you're a boy who likes girls. It's just not the same... When you're in a minority, becoming a community is a necessity. Hence there is no "heterosexual community". Communities have good and bad elements, and I've experienced some serious negatives. I say I'm a bad gay because I have never been particularly well-received by anyone in the community except my boyfriend, and we started off long-distance (we've been dating for almost three years now). I actually don't have any gay friends, save for him. Poor me, right? I don't mind it so much, but I've never fit in with a mostly gay community.
To answer other questions... I started on Virtue, played on Infinity, then moved to Freedom. I've experienced a degree of negativity on each, but you can probably guess that Freedom is the worst.
With all this said, I am proud of who I am. Though I prefer to avoid conflict, I am not afraid to fight for who I am.. I'm truly glad to hear that Cities has helped people, but it's never been that way for me.
I don't think that makes you 'bad' at being gay or whatever. Not all LGBT people want to 'ghetto' themselves away from the world.
Wanting to avoid conflict makes a lot of sense. It takes a specific sort of person to be able to go out of their way to make ripples and connections within any sort of community. That isn't to say one is superior to the other. Just it's not really for everybody, and it's a bit selfish to make you think you're inferior because that's not the calling for you.