so in app data i renamed config/database (i also renamed the ncsoft folder to NcOld)
in the coh file i renamed Data(with pop window info) to Databkup i tossed all bind/opton saves in the Databkup file as well to be safe.
(i also tried loading with firewall off no luck)
I tried reloading the paragonchat exe and
using /xmpp_set_jid... ect and /xmppconnect
(i had typoed my password once hence error)
and then it connected then promptly crashed paragonchat.ext.
Picture of crash:
((as a side note i actually rather like troubleshhoting wierd errors so im not overly distressed as long as this end up being helpful to development. If anyone has ideas i can try feel free.