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Community => Task Force Hail Mary => Topic started by: Victoria Victrix on March 29, 2013, 06:04:10 PM
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Sorry guys, but you and Rae and Ammon and Quinch are on your own for a while.
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Oh my gosh, Mercedes, I'm so sorry for you!
But I totally feel empathy for your situation, too, as my own Dad died February 4th, two weeks after my mother-in-law died. We did the home hospice care for my Dad right til the end. It was very rough.
I wish you peace, and hope you have plenty of other family to share the burden with.
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*hugs* I'm so sorry. That's a pain I know, and still feel keenly.
Never mind us, we'll be fine. You go be with your family.
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Oh, hell... :(
Take all the time you need. Seriously. Don't worry about us - worry about you. We'll still be here when you get back.
*fierce hugs*
Michelle
aka
Samuraiko/Dark_Respite
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I am so sorry for your loss, VV.
Blessings to you and yours during this time.
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Above all, believe that she'll always love you, whatever you do to pay your respect.
And wherever you are, she'll always be with you. In your heart.
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im so sorry for your loss.
take all the time u need to heal and recover from your loss.
you will always have the memories of your mom that will help you through it.
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I am terribly sorry for your loss. No amount of words can really assuage what you're going through. Nonetheless, I wish you all the best and all the sympathy in the world. Be strong, feel better.
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My condolences for your loss ) ' :
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Very sorry for your loss, your extended family will still be here.
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Take all the time you need to morn. We love you for who you are, not what you done for us. *hugs*
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I'm very sorry for your loss. :(
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My sympathies for your loss.
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I'm very sorry for your loss..MY heartfelt condolences from myself and Suzy the Elf to you and your family. :'(
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My condolences to you and your family.
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So sorry to hear of your loss. You have me and my wife's most sincere condolences.
It's 8 years now since Mom passed away.
I had a character in City of Heroes that was a tribute character I made after Mom died. Losing her tribute character is one of the things hold against the company. At least with Icon, and some saved demo files I can still visit, but that wouldn't be the case without the fine folks at Titan.
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Terribly sorry to hear that, Mercedes. Most sincere condolences.
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You have my heartfelt condolences, it is a terrible thing to lose someone you love so much.
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very sorry to hear.my condolences to you and your family.
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*Hug*
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Praying for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.
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So sorry to hear that. My sympathies for you and your family.
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I am sorry to hear this news. I never have words. My condolences, Mercedes. We'll be here, and we'll be thinkin' of you and yours.
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I'm sorry Mrs Lackey.
*Hug*
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*Double Hug*:( :(
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My deepest and sincere condolences to you, Mrs. Lackey, and your family. *big warm hugs*
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My condolences to you and your family, VV.
My thoughts go out to you .....
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My deepest condolences to you and yours.
I'm sure the various groups will chug along fine without your wisdom for a little while.
Rest easy, be safe, and again, I am extremely sorry for your loss.
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As the others have said. Take your time.
We're here if you need us.
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Condolences, this happened to me around 10 years ago, the only things I can say is make sure you get plenty of hugs, and take as long as you need.
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Sorry Mercedes. Take all the time you need.
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Did someone say GROUP HUG!
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Wow, I am SO sorry to hear that. There's nothing I can say to make you feel better, but I can at least offer some advice. Find some friends or family members to talk about her with. Tell stories about what she liked, what kind of weird but funny things she would do, stuff that she would say, things that were "so mom".
Know that while she may be physically gone, the lives she's directly touched will live on for decades. And even if no one knows her name after a thousand years, the difference she's made in the world through the lives she's indirectly touched--such as ours, and the lives we touch--will last forever. No one ever really dies. Like indelible fingerprints on a clay pot, everyone has a legacy that molds the future.
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oh wow.. im very sorry to hear that.. God Bless you and your family
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Sincerest and heartfelt condolences, VV.
Intone
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Our prayers, and thoughts, are with you and your family.
God Bless.
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Sincere condolences. Losing an immediate family member is the worst.
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My condolences Mercedes.
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I'm sorry for your loss. I lost mine in March almost 4 years ago. Hard to believe it was that long ago.
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This makes me very :(
Anything I try to say just doesn't cut it in my mind. I'm sorry you have to go through that.
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I've never had to deal with the loss of anyone in my family, and my mother is the only one in my family I get along with (to the point where I say without any humor or overdramatism that I don't have any other family), so I can't imagine how terrible that has to feel. You have our support. I don't really know what else to say, but I hope you're able to make it through this relatively quickly if only because losing someone is never fun.
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I don't normally send internet hugs, but this warrants an exception.
:hugs:
Do what you need to. We'll be here when you get back.
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*hugs* My condolences to you and your family! I will be sending positive thoughts your way.
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So sorry to hear of your mother's passing.
My dad passed away a bit over 7 years ago; it feels as if it only happened yesterday. I drove his old pickup until it just couldn't run anymore, just because it
was a tangible reminder of him. Over the years, loss has turned to remembrance, and while I still feel his presence constantly, that presence is now more
comfort than grief.
I hope that you and yours will also reach that point where remembering the joy your mother brought you will ease the grief over her loss. If there's anything we can do to help, let us know.
*hug*
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My condolences to you and your family Mercedes. TDG
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You guys are helping more than you know.
Mom began having what we thought was a bad case of flu about the middle of January, but it just wasn't getting any better and she was losing tons of weight. Her regular doctor wasn't doing much to tell you the truth and we finally persuaded her to go to the emergency room when she nearly collapsed. After a lot of tests the only thing they could come up with was "gastritis"; it was sounding like she was getting better, and they had transferred her to the rehab section of the hospital. She was doing rehab twice a day for three hours at a time, and we all figured things were going fine. Then Friday morning she was literally fine one moment and gone the next.
My brother is out there with Dad now; he's done this dance three times before, with his wife's mother, father, and an aunt that was close. So he has things wired tight and when I talked to them this morning they are doing better than I am to tell the truth. I'll be going out probably Monday or Tuesday; it's Easter weekend so of course nothing can be done right now.
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Sorry to hear about your mom VV. My heart goes out to you, it is never easy losing someone so close to you. The CoHTitan Community is here for you.
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Very sorry for your loss Victoria V., I read the forums almost every day, but I only post when absolutely necessary. You are one of the foundations of the Save CoX efforts, and a corner stone of our community-- my heart goes out for you and your family in the time of this great loss.
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My father died about 8 years ago. I had to be the one to make the hard decisions. The U of M hospital was going to operate but my dad was so weak they decided not to. My brothers and uncle tried to argue with the chief of surgery to operate. I finally stepped in and said there is something worse than dying on the table, surviving but being too weak to ever go home again.
They all stopped and actually heard what I was saying.
The doctor offered to tell my dad but I said, "Doc thanks, but you don't love him and we do." I told my dad he was going home now and he instantly knew why. "So that's it, then?" He said. "Yes, one of the best hospitals in the world can't operate." I replied. I can never forget those few minutes ever.
My dad looked at the nurse and said, "You have 10 minutes to get these tubes out of me and then my sons are taking me home to die. I will give you 10 minutes of the time I have left after that I am taking them out myself."
I understand your pain, but as TonyV said - talk about her tell the stories that made you laugh, cry and love her. It is what makes us human to share loss.
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My deepest condolences and Internet Hugs. I've been there (or somewhere near there) and I know that she'll live on through the people around her.
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As everyone else has been saying, my sincere condolences for your loss.
Know that your community-of-choice here on the Titan network are thinking and praying for you (prayer being defined by each individual as their own version of sending good energy into the universe). You are not alone - we're here if we can do anything to help.
And as others have said, take the time you need. Come back when you are ready. We'll leave the light on for you.
Until we see you next:
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I'm so sorry for your loss, Ms. Lackey. Take the time you need. I agree with TonyV, talk about the funny stuff, the good stories, the weird stuff she told you over the years. Laugh as well as cry. Laughter makes the pain go faster.
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I know for certain that we never lose the people we love, even to their passing. They continue to participate in every act, thought and decision we make. Their love leaves an indelible imprint in our memories. We find comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having shared their love. Hold tight to memories, lean on your friends for strength, and always remember how much you are cared about.
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Sorry to hear of your loss.
Hugs to you and the fam.
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VV- Very sorry to hear this. If you need anything, let us know. You have an entire community who has your back.
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So sorry VV. {{{hugs}}} to you and your family. Yes, remember the great times. The funny stories. She is always with you in spirit. She gave us a great author and I'm guessing the fire to make you a MAJOR fighter for our cause. God Bless.
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:'( condolences for your loss, especially in such a tragic way
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Much sympathy for your loss Mrs. Lackey, and please take your time. :(
P.S. Your mom brought something really awesome into this world. Much respect for you and your work. :)
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I don't post much but I'm sorry to hear this news. I know there's nothing I can say to make things better but I hope you find some peace and comfort in the fact that you have a community here to support you no matter what. You and your family will be in my prayers. GOD bless!!
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My deepest sympathies on your loss. I hope she's happy wherever she is... :(
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss and for your grief. Take your time to mourn, remember, and when you're ready again to pull on your tights and take up the fight, we'll be here.
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:'( Oh my condolences to you and your family, Ma'am! Please know that your pain is with us and in our heart! take care!
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Deepest condolences. Take the time you need.
This community will always be here for you when you need us.
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My deepest sympathies for you. This community will be here if, and when you need us. Take your time to grieve your loss. We'll patiently wait for you to return
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It is never easy to lose anyone who has touched your life. Family even more so. Our hearts are with you. Take care of yourself and don't worry about us. When you're ready for us, we'll be here.
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This is the 2nd condolence I am creating. On the Community Boards of CoH- I responded to someone who's father had died a few years back to cancer. He was an active player on CoH. I saw his photo posted.
There are no words I can write to help with the pain. Just know you are not alone. Tragedies have happened before and 2 worlds are effected: Real Life and the Virtual life in Paragon
as their characters are no longer logged on. I have played with Father/Son teams and also a Mother and Son Team. I have had conversations with young players- children as they seem to have gravitated to my character as a Mother figure....City of Heroes have touched us inside in many ways.
God Bless you and your family during this trying time. We are a family here,too. :-*
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My heart goes out to you and your family, Mercedes. Take the time you need, we have your back.
As others have said it helps to share the stories and joy she brought to the lives she touched. If you need need it there is always a hot cuppa for you from Oz.
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You have our condolences and prayers, VV. Your extended family is here for you when you return.
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My deepest condolences.
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My condolences VV. I lost my great grandmother, who I was rather close to, back in Feb. I know its not quite the same as losing your mother, but I do understand what its like to lose someone close. Take whatever time you need and remember all of us here are behind you.
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My Condoloences VV, we will be here thinking of you.
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Sincere condolences. Thoughts are with you and your family.
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Dear Mercedes
My family and I were very sorry to hear the sad news.
Having suffered a similar loss last year, I know that no amount of sentiments will bring back your mother, or alleviate the pain of your loss, but, please be assured that the thoughts of ALL the community, and their prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.
If it is only a small amount of comfort to you, you can be sure that your efforts to help our community are a symbol of what makes you, and the COH community in general special - we all care for each other, and, it is exactly that community spirit which makes you and all those on these forums special to me.
I am sorry I am unable to do more than to pray for you and your family.
God Bless you.
Roy Coker
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I just logged into titan for the first time in far to long.
My condolences. If its any consolation, in the Jewish faith, it is said that any spirit that is remembered never truely dies.
There is one other thing, you may or may not be familiar with, an ancient practice in my faith that it can't hurt to try.
Take some piece of earth or stone from near your home, bring it to her grave and take a piece of earth from her grave and bring it home. Think of her and tell the spirit why, tell her its a pathway by which she can always visit you....do the same for any special place, other homes, and other graves.
I've always found this small ceremony comforting....may it help to bring you solace in this time of need.
Michele
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sorry to hear your loss V.V.
I would say other things but they'd just sound crazy, and I don't have much confidence in many peoples ability to do them, and of coarse I could do it but I prefer to remain a faceless, nameless internet entity.
I suppose I am good with condolences; so in that regard I hope she ends up in a nice place, and if she does may god find some way to let you know.
additionally this sounds similar to a disease I was reading about that came from bangladesh, I cannot remember the full title of it, let me look it up:
CRE (the short name)
http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2013-03-19/health/ct-met-superbugs-cre-20130319_1_carbapenem-resistant-urinary-tract-infections-antibiotic-resistant-bacteria
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I am so very sorry for your loss, Ms. Lackey. I lost my mother a little over a year ago, and know how incomprehensibly... awful it is. There's just no other word.
Sending thoughts and positive energy your way as you begin to work your way through the grieving process. -Jeff/Mindscythe
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So very sorry for your loss, V.V.
My own Mom has been in the hospital since Thanksgiving due to encephalitis. Every day I live in fear of getting "the call" from my Dad, telling me it's all over. So sorry you had to take that call.
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My deepest condolences to you and your family in this time of grief. We all understand that this takes priority over a video game, because we all understand that people are more important than things. And I think I speak for all of us when I say, if there's anything we can do, please let us know. This is a community, and communities aren't just about "What can you do for us?" They're about "What can we do for each other?"
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Dear Surelle, I am so very sorry for the recent loss of both your father and your mother-in-law. Please let me know if there's anything I might do that would be helpful.
Dear V.V., I don't have words. I've lost a parent but not a mother. Maybe there are words, but if so they are not mine. I'd intended to blog about a recent S-F convention I attended this past weekend (my con report: it was fun) but a member of the CoH community met here on Titan and I have subsequently become RL friends even after the shuttering of CoH and when I phoned to say hi, what have I missed this past weekend, what's new on Titan, well, she told me (my words now, not hers) that we'd lost yet another Super Hero, and I can tell you how that makes me feel. I know I rant and rave LOTS about the small stuff that annoys me. Somehow the more important it is, the less I am able to speak - when done with humor, my friends actually delight in making me speechless. And I won't bore you with the story about the bridge player and work colleague whose two words for me (after I'd prattled on sufficiently) was to whisper in my direction "Duct Tape!" - 'cause she'd already threatened over the bridge table once to duct tape my lips if I made one more awful pun! Anyhow, I don't have words to put any of this into perspective, much less to offer comfort. The very best I can hope to offer is a shoulder to cry on, some words of distraction, a reasonably clean handkerchief - oops! let me go get another clean handkerchief!! What I'd really like to do if I lived closer would be to bring over a homemade pie and a casserole and leave these in the kitchen for you and Larry along with all the other food stuffs for the various people in your home. Like i said, we both know there's absolutely nothing I can say, but despite this I would like to offer to you and to Surelle to keep you and yours, those currently walking the Earth as well as those recently departed, in my thoughts and prayers tonight and for the next several weeks after. I also plan on lighting a candle, not because I personally think that lighting a candle will make all that much difference, but rather it will make it easier to meditate and as one grandmother friends liked to remark, "Why not? It couldn't hurt."
All love to you, Mercedes Lackey and also Surelle; I pray in my own particular way and shall not bore you with the language of it. May the Higher Spirit look over each and both of you, your families, and as well as your recently (what I call) Dearly Departed, those loved ones whose souls are released from the pain of earthly bodies. Namaste.
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My condolences for your loss VV.
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My condolences for your loss Ms. Lackey.
It's at times like this that I wish that I could say something that would help.
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Heard about this over at the update blog and came over to make sure I said something. I'm really sorry to hear it Misty.
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So sorry to hear of your loss, Mercedes (I think of you as Misty Lackey, BTW, because my filker friends call you that).
Loss of a close family member is so hard, but I'm glad that your Titan "family" is here to support you. I know that when I lost my brother-in-law in 2008 and then my baby brother (he was 43!) in 2010, my CoH family was there to offer condolences and virtual hugs. I am paying that forward today to you!
Carole
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Mercedes, we grieve with you. Sharing that pain with the CoH community who genuinely cares for you helps. We love you, your written work and all the time you have devoted to saving our game home. Hugs and prayers are with you.
It takes a lot of time to work through a death in the family, and we Americans are terrible about giving a family time to grieve. I lost my dad to lung cancer, my brother in law to melanoma, my mother in law to colon cancer and now my mother is nearing the end of her path as we work with hospice in her struggle with emphysema.
If there is anything particular you want us to pray for or you want to share, we are here for you my friend.
Love,
Ant/Moon/Rebelle
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I am so sorry for your lose. You have my deepest condolences. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers as you go through this difficult time.
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Wow. Finally get to a terminal where I can log to the 'net after a month; and I see this. My prayers for you and yours, VV.
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My sincere condolences on your loss. If there is anything we can do, perhaps a charity or cause we can contribute to in her memory, please let us know.
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Condolences.
Take care of family stuff and we'll see you when you're ready.
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My condolensces.
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I wish I could do more than offer my condolences, VV. Take care of yourself and your family, and may you find peace and comfort.
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VV, my deep, heartfelt condolences. I wish you well through this time, and please take care of yourself. You come first.
We are here if you need us.
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Seems the angel of death making it's rounds. Yesterday I got the call my Step-father died (he was more a Dad then my biological father ever was.)
Misery loves company they say so... I gladly share in our sorrow of our loved ones, and the love of those still with us.
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Seems the angel of death making it's rounds. Yesterday I got the call my Step-father died (he was more a Dad then my biological father ever was.)
Misery loves company they say so... I gladly share in our sorrow of our loved ones, and the love of those still with us.
Dear Rotten Luck, I am so sorry! My own beloved stepfather passed away last May (2012) and like yours, was more of a father to me and had been for over 30 years than my biological dad (he passed in '87). I am reminded of the saying that while none of us gets to choose the families we are born into, we do get to choose our friends and I like even more the saying that "Friend are the Family you get to choose" and indeed many of my closest friends have been as close or closer and much more involved in my life than blood relatives, such as cousins, but I guess that's modern life. Anyhow, let's all keep one another in our prayers and best wishes. I happen to believe in a number of things that others might not, and yet as one academic, a dean of Science & Technology once said to me when we were discussing metaphysics (quoting Dianne), "John, I am a scientist. I discount NOTHING." And another dean said (and Barbara was Jewish), "As my mother said, 'light a candle' and i figure it can't hurt but only can help." Thus, unless our faith requires something truly outlandish like blood sacrifice of chickens or somesuch, let's just keep the City of Heroes community in mind when next we each offer prayers, well wishes, etc. to the higher power (however you personally happen to conceptualize that.) With this in mind, RL, I would like now to extend my very deepest sympathies and condolences. Please know that I shall be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers, even as I do when I am told of others experiencing recent loss. I know my own grieving process quite well by now. All love to you & yours in the Sacred Spirit.
John
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Has anyone heard on how Mercedes is doing? I remember when I lost my mother.
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Seems the angel of death making it's rounds. Yesterday I got the call my Step-father died (he was more a Dad then my biological father ever was.)
Misery loves company they say so... I gladly share in our sorrow of our loved ones, and the love of those still with us.
sorry to hear that, it is that time of year, death usually hits in the winter or spring, so if you ever get old remember you have to hold on to life till summer comes.
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That sucks...I just had a friend recently who's father just died.
Well I hope you can get through this tough time. May she RIP.
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Has anyone heard on how Mercedes is doing? I remember when I lost my mother.
I have not heard anything (nor would I anticipate doing so before anyone else). Dear @Heatstroke, I am not in the least surprised you remember this. While it is awful to say so, it reminds me to appreciate and be grateful for those of my family still in the world - I find it helps me be more patient with normal human foibles (and perhaps it works that way for them as well.) I would anticipate that Misty has at least weeks of mourning and perhaps even some complicated legal work on her plate. Of course I might also be wrong, and hope so; but as we all of us here on Titan know loss, bereavement, and grieving is handled by each of us differently and according to its own time table. My own possibly erroneous sensibility is it would be fine for us to offer renewed prayers and condolences to Ms. Lackey as well as to all here on Titan who are grieving. I love life, but some aspects of it are simply no fun.
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That sucks...I just had a friend recently who's father just died.
Well I hope you can get through this tough time. May she RIP.
I am sorry for your friend's loss. I find experience only makes this road more familiar but not easier. He or she is fortunate to have a caring friend at this time. Welcome perhaps to yet new levels of personal Heroism, @Vasarto. At the risk of being obnoxious I would like to quote from a Quaker lady living in England who wrote in 1985 about compassion, "Co-partnership with Love energy is needed because unless we open ourselves to it consciously*, nothing in the new order of awareness is able to break through." Best hopes and wishes to you and your friend in navigating this difficult time.
*emphasis was the author's, Damaris Parker-Rhodes.